Just Broke up With my Girlfriend, a Letter for All Girls, Writing with Tears
I want to say to the girls as followed:
     When you decide to make a new boyfriend, please hide your past love deeply in a corner of your soul. Don not show off frequentely. Do not make a contrast between them. You love your previous boyfriend because you have adapted the feelings with him. You have depended on him. But it doesn’t mean that the later one is inferior.
     When a man can contain your past and feel distressed on the pain you have suffered, and encourage you to get over the past shadow, you should feel grateful. One acts like this on a man who is selfish towards love only when he or she loves a man profoundly. Nobody is in duty bound to see to a bypast man who has no business with him. Nobody has the obligation to responsible for his woman’s last love.
     When you are inconsistent with your boyfriend, when he is sad alone and say nothing in order to not to make you angry, please don't follow up like a chanticleer which is a victory in a fight. You must have done something wrong. If he is wrong, he will come to make an apology. He does so for the sake of holding this love together, instead of quarrelling or making a pleading with you.
     When you hurt your boyfriend again, please don’t take for granted that a man has the obligation to bear all these quietly. Everyone has its own memory. Take a broken vase for example, there is still a crack even if adhibiting the small pieces together. The love between a man and a woman just like a cup of water. You have to swill out some water from the cup once hurt. Meanwhile, you can add some when you feel happy and sweet. When the cup becomes empty, your love has an end, too.
     When your boyfriend pays for you, please don’t be in a enthrallment of the joy of getting a new thing. Instead, you should realised that he buys you something not ony for your pleasure but also for your loving him more. Because every red cent he has cost is exchanged by his hard working. You should cherish all of them.
     When your boyfriend can’t accompany around you, you should try your best to live a happy life. You should pray for your boyfriend ouyside, praying he can come back safely. You should know that your boyfriend also hopes to be with you 25 hours per day and to see your beautiful looks. However, men have more responsibilities. They have to work hard for their career in order to give you a better life. Your boyfriend is not completely yours. At the same tim, he is his parents’ son, an employee in the company and a fellow of his colleagues. When he wants to travel for business, you should tidy up his baggage. When he plans to go home to visit his parents, you should them some presents. When he is with his colleagues, you should share the happy moment he has told you. When he can’t accompany you, please convincing that your hearts are together. You should think of the happy hours when he is with you and long for the joyousness when he comes back instead of thinking of other man because of the temporary hollowness.
     When your boyfriend who is a coddle brushes pans and bowls, washes dishes and cooks  for you, you should be considerate of his hardship. He does some housework after working. Please give him a hand as possible as you can. What he hopes is seeing his love girl tasting his product. He likes the sense of working hard towards the same goal together.
     Please evaluate yourself anf your boyfriend by the same standard. Remember the old saying:            It’s a fair society between man and woman today. Your boyfriend can contain your shortcomings and bear your erring in because he loves you, but not he ignores your errors and shortcomings. Please be punctual when dating with him for his time is also precious; don’t complain too much if he is late, since he is much more vexed than you. When you are late, you should feel a little guilty. Even though he says “Baby, don’t be hurried. Watch out on the way.” , he still hopes your coming earlier.
     Try hard to elevate yourself and make yourself become excellent. Maybe your boyfriend won’t ask you for this or that, but he actually hopes his girlfriend to exceed others. He will be happier than you if he see your every progress. He doesn’t expect you to be his fair-weather girlfriend, though he wants to make great efforts to let you do nothing but lying in bed and enjoying the happy sunshine ^_^
      When he have done something not fine, please don’t carp at this. Never be fussy because of comparing with the previous boyfriend. You must believe that every man has its faults. When you can’t bear some of his behaviors, you should speak out directly indirectly instead of quarrelling. Because quarrel can’t correct one’s shortcomings but make people lose sense.
     When you see your boyfriend’s room being in a mess and untidy, you should clean it up patiently or remind him of this. It is sure that men are less careful than women and less clean than women. That not bother about trivialities doesn’t mean one has on good future or prospect.
     When your boyfriend is playing games, you should pay attention to it dumbly beside him. Playing games doesn’t symbolize he saps the will for excessive attention to the plaything. In fact, few men will sap his will because of playing games when he has its work and a girlfriend. Perhaps he just wants to regain the feeling of college life, or to find an achievement in other field, or to have more common sense with his colleagues.
     When your boyfriend prop up an umbrella above your head to keep out the rain for you, remember to hug him closely. Men are made up of flesh. He just think that you are more important than him. It doean’t mean he likes being caught in rain.
     When your boyfriend answers a call and walks outside, please don’t be nervous aabout it. He show his respect to you only and he doesn’t want to conceal anything.
     When your boyfriend doea this or that for you, don’t take it for granted. Please say thank you with a grateful heart. Though he says “That’s all right”, actually, he is eager to hear about this.
     When you are in a bad temper or insane because of physical problem, please believe that your boyfriend feels distressed for you. He is eager to bear all this instead of you. When you takes it out on him, when washes underwears willingly for you, you should be kind to him after those several days, for a man also has his own tempers and is afraid of dirty things.
     When he is drunk outside with others, you shouldn’t be angry to him and scold him. He can’t listen clearly. Maybe the wine he has drunk contains others’ respect to you, so he drinks with smiles.
     When your thoughts are conflicting with each other, please believe that every man’s mind is different. Don’t think it inappropriate when he has his own opinion. That seeking common points while reserving difference is needed. He won’t force you to accept his oppinions, at the same time, he doesn’t hope you to force your view to others.
     Here, please don’t be tense for a good boyfriend can’t reach the requirement mentioned above. It’t OK when you feel fine.  A good man has on adges and corners at home as he has conceal them carefully. He just doesn’t want to hurt you.

 (Translation/ Meng Xiaoli)
Source : Women’s Home Club Nvxing.com